You will need some time to get used to your first vibrator. We guide you through the process.

It’s sensual, intriguing and so much fun. So why do so few women use vibrators?

What kind of vibrator is it?

There are many kinds of vibrators, each with a specific purpose. You must first identify the kind of vibrator that you have, so that you can use it in the best way possible.

For example, some vibrators are only meant for clitoral and labial stimulation. Some others are shaped like a penis, and are meant for use inside the vagina to mimic the feel and rhythms of a real penis. Still others are meant for both internal and outer use at the same time.

Once you know the purpose of the vibrator, you can use it more confidently. Most are fitted with dials to adjust the speed of vibration, for greater stimulation and pleasure.

A vibrator enhances sexual sensations – it does not replace real sex

• Most people believe that women who use vibrators are either sexually inactive, i.e. currently without a partner, or women who remain unfulfilled by their partners in bed. Both these beliefs are false.
• A woman in a committed and fulfilling sexual relationship may also use a vibrator. The use of this device has little to do with the partner’s prowess in bed.
• It can unlock hidden realms of sexual pleasure that the woman may have been unaware of previously. When you know what turns you on or gives you a more shattering climax, you can use the same knowledge when having sex with your partner.
• Some vibrators can be used by couples in bed together. It helps them understand their own bodies much better, and they can pleasure each other for better climax. It enhances their bond and makes their sex lives more interesting.
• You can teach your partner to use your sex toy on you. It’s fun and really intimate, and your sex life will zoom into fantastic realms of pleasure.

Here’s how you use it

• Take your time understanding how the device works. Lie down on your bed, put on some soothing music and start using it.
• Women take longer to be aroused than men do, so don’t worry if ‘nothing happens’ for a while. Your body needs to adapt to the new stimulation. Meanwhile, you can touch yourself to increase arousal.
• Relax completely and focus on how the device makes you feel, where you feel the most pleasure and what doesn’t work. Be sure to use lubricant with it.
• Once you use it regularly, you can show it to your partner and have them use it on you during sex.
• It is important to reassure your partner that you are using the vibrator to enhance your sex life, and not to replace them in bed. Nothing can replace the touch and feel of their body, and they need to know that.